Here’s another protest I hear from my own mind and from the minds of others:
If we don’t fight-back against those people who initiate bad actions, we will lose and the bad guys will win. We must “defend” or we will be taken over and beaten by those who attack.
My whole-self answers this. Look at the illusion that the word “bad” brings as if it were the whole of the situation or a complete picture of the persons involved. The word itself narrows and excludes most of the reality
which is present in the whole of the situation.
If we begin to see the false nature of fighting back as the only option, we can still take action to contribute to change. And our actions become much more effective without the tension of fighting “the bad”.
[Ask me about my experience holding a five-week old baby girl as she cried for almost 20 minutes. Email me at email@example.com
But if we take action from the same place that those we say are “bad” acted from, how can our actions change what is generally happening? Our actions are fueled by the same energies that fueled “the bad”. What we call “the bad” are driven by an unconscious/highly-confused place, and we respond in kind, also out of an unconscious/highly-confused place. The specifics are different, but the underlying energies are the same.
In situations that seem to warrant fighting back, I’ve experienced what Byron Katie said: Defense is the first act of war.
See Blaming Myself – Blaming Others (Externalizing the War Inside)
in book A Whole of The Whole on page 80.]